How to be Yourself

Hello everyone! I hope you like my first blog.  I know that I have some trouble with my grammars since it's my first time sharing my thoughts online .  But anyway, I  feel glad that I was  able to share my own perspective on this topic.  Please comment after reading , in that way I will know whether  you like it or not.

Have a wonderful time reading. Hope it helps.
               
                      ---- Purple Fairy :)



Lack of Confidence is one of the inevitable problem that everyone faces nowadays in school, at the office, at the street I mean almost everywhere.

Well let me point out to you some few instances :

€ Whenever you go to the mall by yourself, you feel like you are a complete loner since you are just alone while everyone are with someone else having a fun time together. This is the reason, why you feel shy instead of having a fun time at the mall. Because you always care what other people will think of you.

€ Every time you see your crush at the hallway, you feel shy and you  lose your confidence in front of him causing you to act silly as you say HI .

€ Ms. Torres just asked you in front of the class, what is your opinion about world peace. Since you felt nervous, you don't know what to say so instead you answered : I don't have any clue. Your classmates started laughing. Eventually, you have ended up being tomato red since you lack the confidence to speak up for your own opinion. It led to worst..

€ You talked to a person whom you don't know completely in class. You felt the conversation was getting awkward since you keep thinking what will you say. This is the reason, why you got nervous and concern what and how will you respond to this person.

€ You are with your circle of friends. Whenever they share your views, you always
agree with their opinions even though you disagree with them. Also, if you are in a group conversation you will end up being the quiet type while all of them are sharing their stories. All of them are having a fun time together except you.

Are these instances have already occurred in some point of your life? Well, I can say that you are a type of person who is always concern on how will others think of you. You want to please them. You want to be   change your personality, your behavior, your perspective in life just to please them and to be able to fit in.

 Now,  I am going to ask you a question: Are you happy pretending to be someone else  whom you are really not ?


Ways how to be YOU!

Here are the 3 steps to be yourself.

Step 1: Always don't focus what people will be thinking of you. But instead, think of yourself. Are you happy on your own decision ?

Problem that we encounter:

Since we always think what other people will be thinking of us rather than being ourself. People always feel anxious when they hear criticisms they receive from others. Eventually, they will end up thinking they were being judged by someone who doesn't truly deserve from what they have heard.

Tip:

When we receive criticisms from others, learn to accept them since we get to  know our own flaws and get to change them for the better. Don't mind what other will be thinking of you since you exist in this world to discover and learn from your own self , not to please them.

Try to think about it...

If we never receive criticisms from others , we become so proud of ourselves to the point that we become arrogant since we think that we are great that no one can be greater than us.

On the other hand, if we receive criticisms from others, we may feel hurt or upset. But a hurtful criticism can change our lives. We turn mistakes into lessons.


Step 2: Learn to embrace ourselves. Love every single part of our body since they are   gift given by God.

Problem that  we encounter:

Teenagers love to read fashion magazines , when they turn up the pages and see a pretty actresses who have a  perfect eyes, perfect face, perfect hair,, perfect legs and most fo all , perfect outfit. They will envy them a lot and wanting to be one of them.

Tip:

Dont ever compare yourself to other people. Because not all of the people are born perfect. Who knows? The girl whom you adore has a perfect nose but has a chubby face. The most popular girl in your school looks pretty but has a harsh personality. The actress whom you adore have undergone  liposuction. Upon knowing that, do you still have the feeling of getting jealous ? I don't think so. I mean, you cannot have it all, right??



Step 3: Never change a single thing of yourself just to please others.

Like they say, just be yourself. You should not change any single traits or attitides that you have  just to be able to fit in because it's not being  you.

Problem that we encounter:

Most of us wants to fit in. I mean, everybody does. But of course, it's very hard to fit in especially if the people whom you mingle with are different compared to yourself.


Examples To  Let you Know that you are not Being yourself:

 You joined the art club even though you want to join theater club at the first place. Since your circle of friends like art you  also want art too!

You realize that your circle of friends like throwing a joke .. Everyone laughs at it. Soon, you threw a joke too even though you are not a joker. You expect them to hear a giggle,   but rather they keep on complaing you to make a good jokes since they find your jokes corny!


Your favorite actress just have a new hairstyle. Since you adore her very much. You copied everything from that actress ;  her mannerisms, hairstyle, behavior and outfit.

Tip:

Follow the desires of your heart  and make your own decisions.  Dont choose anything just to be able to fit in or whatsoever. Since you are born in this world to nurture your talent, and learn  from yourself . Never  plagiarise or be a copycat . Because if we choose different direction, we can never like the things that we never liked from the start . When you mingle with the friends whom you feel that you are not being yourself, you can never feel happy and comfortable being with them.

Like they say, just be yourself. You should not change any single traits or attitides that you have just to be able to fit in because it's not being you.




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How to Know that You Are Being Yourself:


1. You say what you feel, without the feeling of doubt or fear.

2. You never feel shy or nervous when you are walking along the hallway .

3. You appreciate your own talent and worth.

4. You never compare yourself with others who are greater than you.

5. You are always concern on yourself rather than what people will be  thinking of you.



My Own Experience:


In my own experience, there comes a point in my life that I have changed everything on myself just to be able to fit in. Eventually, I realized that I like to be with a true friend whom I feel comfortable with rather than to be with ten acquaintances whom I never feel the presence even from the start. . Honestly, I never feel happy being with them. I never find true satisfaction and the value of friendship. It just became worst. So I have decided to leave the group and find a friend whom I trust  . Because a true friend accepts, cares and loves you the way you wanted to be loved. They love you even your single flaws and your imperfections because they accepts you the way you want them to be.

But most of all , a true friend  wants you to be yourself.